Confusion

[lensman]

Hmmm It's been a confusing week

Last week A met up with a guy at Arisia. They hit it off and make plans to meet later.

Then durring the week A had an old flame call out of the blue, and drop in. They hadn't seen each other in years and met up after A got out of work. I wanted to give her some space and was fortunate enough to have B invite me out to dinner.

Later in the week I'm venting about bills to B, Who is in a different place from me financially. And she sweetly offers to help me out. The confusing part here is should I accept or not. Part of me wants to, but I don't want to add that as a complication to our relationship.

Yesterday I'm supposed to go to an Arisia mtg and A was going to meet up with the other guy. But due to the snow all of the schedules got fouled up. (I'm not sure I dealt well with the scheduling foul up, but I dealt)

Comments

Re: confucius say re: confusion

[(Anonymous)]

Well, money is one thing, and has nothing to do with feelings. Or shouldn't. Feelings have nothing to do with the money. Mostly depends on how the personal relationship ends (or changes). If that's done with respect and compassion, then money is just so much water under the bridge. :-)

My ex fiance owed me $2,000 when we split. It didn't bother me until a year later when he'd made NO payments at all, not even a token "I haven't forgotten" $5. As I was the one who'd financed his computer set-up that led him to meet his new internet love he'd dumped me for. . . well, as you may imagine *that* got complex, feelings-wise. :-) When he finally paid it (I had to ask for it), he wrote "Now we're even." Hah! Hardly. Hmmm, yes, I'm beginning to see your point about money and the feelings invested. Maybe it's just one more thing I'm in denial about? To be continued. . .

Of course "dire" needs are not being met! That's one major drawback to poly -- you just can't please all of the people all of the time. :-) But you warned me about that so. . . can't say I can blame you for not being in two places at once. :-) Not much to do about that one except either clone yourself, or have only lovers who have other lovers to fill in the gaps, no pun intended :-) Or have only lovers that are really low maintenance or low It's a snaggle, not to be solved in this lifetime. :-/

yannow, I'd have these conversations privately. . . but you never answer my e-mails anymore. heheheh

Re: confucius say re: confusion

[(Anonymous)]

"Have only loves who are really low maintenance or low" was NOT the image I was going for. :-) The sentence was s'posed to end at "low maintenance." I.e., no needs, wants, desires, expectations, hopes, dreams, fantasies, insecurities, layers, urges. You know, someone you probably wouldn't be interested in to begin with, they'd be so one-dimensional and cow-like in demeanor, lol!

B